Talked to an Ex Wife~interesting

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Talked to an Ex Wife~interesting
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 10:06am
I have just this past week talked to my husbands 3rd ex wife of 12yrs....(She called me)Very interesting..The things he tells you and the things that are probably true...I have also talked with his 2nd wife also...I sure found out more things that I didn't know and a few more lies....

These women seem so nice especially his 3rd, that still loved him when she left...I felt bad. But she told me to hand on to my home, and Do not give him the money if I decide to sell it....thats what he is looking for..MONEY. Because he has alot of debt...thats because he lives like a king.and he wants a second income to support his debt and help pay for it. Do I tell him I talked with her, He'll be mad I know that, but I really want him to know I talked with her..and let him squirm
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 10:50am
From a factual point of view.

Your husband sees nothing wrong with debt, or finding another way to supplement his income at the expense of someone else or their loss or total destruction. HIs values totally justify and entitle him to everything he can get at other people's expense.

You want to "make him squirm" as if he's done something wrong,a nd you've found hiim out and that makes you smarter or better than him....he want him to crawl on his belly claiming he'll change his ways - if only the greatness of you will save him from himself.

Wise up...the man has done this to 3 women and he picked you because "you fit the profile" of the sort of person that he can get what he wants from, via actionsthat his values justify that are designed to destroy you.

he does not CARE what happens to you...he CARES that he gets out of you what he wants and needs to further his own efforts, gains, and goals.

the longer you revolve around him and his approval and needs...the more you "lose' in every regard. And check with an attorney....because there is possibilities that should you sell - you wouldn'thave to give up the money in order to "owe" him the money.

Erin

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 1:24pm

hate to say this but you are playing silly games, and you are going to end up hurting yourself and kids even more. stop speaking to the ex-wives, you already know that he is a piece of horse-droppings, so stop trying to prove it, and stop trying to outsmart him. instead of wasting your time with the ex wives - speak to a lawyer who can give you some REAL advice.


and no, DO NOT tell him you talked to her.