Tardy BF making me wonder....

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Registered: 02-02-2006
Tardy BF making me wonder....
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 9:23pm
My bf thinks it's perfectly fine to waste time hanging around his apartment doing nothing before he comes over so that we end up late for events I've planned or want to go to, yet when he's planned our outing, I'm expected to be prompt. I used to think his relaxed attitude about time had to do with the fact that he's from a tiny eastern European town, where punctuality isn't as important as it can be here. But, he's always on time for his own personal events that have nothing to do with me, so this lets me know he's perfectly capable of being on time.... I've talked to him about his apparent lack of respect for my time and yet this lateness continues. What's going on? Is this a form of control or what? We've been together almost two years and we're moving in together this August. Do you think since he'll no longer have to pick me up or meet me anywhere, this'll change? He doesn't do anything else as irritating, just this. It's odd. What are your thoughts, ladies (and gents)?


Edited 6/14/2007 9:25 pm ET by alienluv
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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 12:11am

No, he won't change when you're living together. Expect yourself to be constantly frustrated by him playing on the xBox or PC or reading the paper when you're wanting him to get ready to go out.

The big question here: why do you wait for him? Surely if you left without him, he'd start to be on time?

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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 7:15am
You're so right! I was thinking about going out without him and seeing what happens. Since you suggested that, I'm going to try it now. Thanks!
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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 6:23pm

Welcome to the board alienluv,


I agree with the advice - go without him.