Is there any chance one he leaves?
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Is there any chance one he leaves?
| Thu, 07-29-2004 - 9:59am |
My bf of one and a half year left me. Our lease was up and instead of staying with me he
decided that he would move back home. It was great having him in my life, we were happy. There were so many things against us though, both in school and work full-time, barely had time for eachother nevermind friends and family. I wanted to get married he said never but at first he was for it. I have been so miserable that I called him and we talked for hours. He said he has to get his life straight before anything else and he isn't ready for a relationship at this point. He doesn't want to date other people but he said he isn't comfortable with me knowing he can never give me what i want. It isnt about giving me what i want, I just want HIM in my life. I was willing to sacrifice that to be with him, but now I feel everything is my fault. He wasn't like this until the end of our relationship and now he left because I think i pushed too hard. Do i give him space and wait for him to get his life together or is it time to just forget? I want him in my life but I do not know if it is impossible.
decided that he would move back home. It was great having him in my life, we were happy. There were so many things against us though, both in school and work full-time, barely had time for eachother nevermind friends and family. I wanted to get married he said never but at first he was for it. I have been so miserable that I called him and we talked for hours. He said he has to get his life straight before anything else and he isn't ready for a relationship at this point. He doesn't want to date other people but he said he isn't comfortable with me knowing he can never give me what i want. It isnt about giving me what i want, I just want HIM in my life. I was willing to sacrifice that to be with him, but now I feel everything is my fault. He wasn't like this until the end of our relationship and now he left because I think i pushed too hard. Do i give him space and wait for him to get his life together or is it time to just forget? I want him in my life but I do not know if it is impossible.

Your ex didnt have a chance at aking you happy...if he wasnt happy with himself first. Same goes for you. Before you will ever be able to suceed, truly suceed and be happy, you must learn to be happy alone.
You need to get out nad live your life. Do things that you didnt have time to do bfore. Be with frinds, with family. take that long bath you've been wanting to take for the past two weeks. See that movie you put off. Ya know?
Its clear that he loves you, but he needs to do this for him and thats respectable.
Best wishes,