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Is there something really wrong with me?
| Sun, 08-17-2008 - 10:29am |
Hey everyone, I've been with my boyfriend of a little over 4 years.
| Sun, 08-17-2008 - 10:29am |
Hey everyone, I've been with my boyfriend of a little over 4 years.
Welcome to the board collegecowgirl,
No, there is nothing wrong with you.
I agree with geo and itwinflame. If this is a deal-breaker for you then it's a deal-breaker.
He does something to which you are highly allergic - there's not much you can do, either he quits or he doesn't, you can't magically become un-allergic. Unfortunately, he has chosen cigarettes. He did make a big compromise to never smoke around you, that's tough to do because I'm sure there are times you are together when he thinks about smoking. But if that isn't enough for you then you have to end the relationship. He's told you that he's not going to quit.
I feel for you because I'm also allergic to cigarettes and would never in a million years date a man who smoked even if it wasn't around me. If my own wonderful guy of 4 years started smoking and had no intention of quitting, the relationship would be over. I guess that is my advice to you, since I think it's unreasonable to ask you to commit to a smoker when I wouldn't do it myself.
I'm really sorry about this. It would be great if no one had to have deal-breakers but this is certainly one for you.
Thanks everyone for you advice, I have alot to think about.
I love this man so much, yet hate smoking so much... I am really torn about it, but right now I can't really see myself breaking it off.