Is there still hope?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2007
Is there still hope?
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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 1:45pm

My ex and I have been broken up for a few months. It was a very hard break up on us where we did the whole back and forth dance during this time. I became very jealous and irrational while he just kept pulling away further due to my behavior. The longest time we went with out talking to each other was 2 weeks and then either he would contact me or I would. Our relationship was pretty crazy as well and towards the end, it just couldn't with stand all the fighting and bitter arguements and words that were exchanged. He wasn't the best boyfriend and has done things to hurt me in the past and instead of standing my ground and leaving him, I stayed to work things out which is where my trust issues and problems stem from.

Right now, we chat via email and occassionally talk on the phone. I saw him last night and we just hung out. He says he doesn't want to date me anymore and we will never be together again. And I want so badly for this to change. I want him to see the good in me and realize that I am worth fighting for and not let go.

Am I being silly and desperate or is there a way I can ease us back into a relationship?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 2:45pm

Welcome to the board mishmosh07,


In my opinion, if he told you he didn't want to date you and you would never get back together than you need to believe him. I know it hurts, but the best thing for you to do right now is stop all contact with him and allow yourself to grieve for the relationship and to move on.


Good luck to you.


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Registered: 03-03-2007
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 3:41pm
I know I'm sounding very desperate but even if he still calls all the time? Does this still imply that he has moved on and will never look back?
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 5:40pm
I had an ex that still called all the time and I thought it was because he was interested in getting back together, but it turned out he was just interested in the sex we were still having. But that doesn't mean your situation will be the same. However, I would think if he wanted to get back together with you that he would tell you that instead of saying that he doesn't want to. Know what I mean?

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