This Thigh is a Little Flabby, Maybe You Should Work Out More
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|Wed, 08-01-2012 - 10:59pm|
"This Thigh is a Little Flabby, Maybe You Should Work Out More."
We're having problems. It's over 10 months into the relationship. The thing is this: I maintain that the above comment, said in a matter-of-fact manner and meant to tease is hurtful. Who needs it?
Here's my question: Is there a woman out there who thinks this is funny?
When he said it, in the car on the way to buy corn for dinner, I said politely that it didn't make me feel good, and not to say something like that again. Silence for several minutes, we stopped for the corn, and got into the car.
Which is when he said: "The correct answer to my comment would be 'Oh, so if that's the case, how come I can beat you up the mountain every time we walk?'"
My sister and I have a hunch that not one woman out there would appreciate this sort of humor. It's just not funny. Especially when you're a bit older, in good shape, and can't help the stuff you can't control. Like the fact that you're skin ain't as great as it was in your twenties/thirties.
Here's the real issue: it seems my man isn't able to accept responsibility for what comes out of his mouth. Which means, perhaps, that he can't see my point of view.
If he can't see my point of view, we probably don't have a future.
So, ladies (and even the occasion male POV is welcome) how would you react? I'm curious yellow, green and orange.
Thanks so much.
We're *talking* about issues. Each of us is choosing something the other person needs to work on. I want him to work on taking responsibility for what he says and the above is my glaring (I think it is obvious, but not to him.) example.