Is this thing worth saving?

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Registered: 03-11-2007
Is this thing worth saving?
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 10:04pm
I have known my husband for 10 years, we've been married for almost 6 of those years. And he discusts me, he never bathes, he has no personality, he leeches all my friends hobbies, time and etc. He's a theif, a liar, he tourges my kids (we have three) and we are losing two houses we have had to rent a home since all this crap. His mother suddenly past away and now his father lives with us and now we have HIM mooching off of us and our limited life. I have a car fixing to be reposesed and I feel my life is spinnig out of control, I want out but is it really the best time and how do I know when it's really over, I really feel it's time to move on, I can hardly bear to have sex with him. Please a little advice anything, I need words of wisdom. Thank you!!
-Leah
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 2:12am

When you say "he tourges my kids" do you mean 'tortures'? If he's harming your children, you must get away.

Perhaps you can give some more information and we can help you further?




Edited 3/13/2007 2:14 am ET by iv_aisha2004
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Registered: 03-11-2007
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 8:34pm
That is what I mean and it's more like he's playin they hate it and scream for him to stop, like spitting on them or actting like it. Holding them up in the air and actting like he will drop them. Or like he's going to put a booger on them and they scream for him to stop while he laughs and I tell him to stop it. Or he'll hit them with something assumeing it won't hurt and when it does, and they start crying, he tells them to 'stop it didn't hurt'. I tell him to stop, knock it off, things like that but he NEVER listens. I feel I am going to get out anyway, but I need more confirmation that it's time. My brother and sister already want me out but I have to wait til time is right, school's out for summer,I have spoken to an attourney etc. Please any advice would be GREATLY needed I need to know I am not alone it feels as though I am TOTALLY alone even though my bro and sis support my desicion. I need an out side to confirm what I feel. Thank you to much!!
-Leah
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 9:01pm
He is physically and emotionally abusing your kids and you want to know what you should do??? You have an obligation to keep them safe. Get them out of there!


Edited 3/13/2007 9:03 pm ET by ciao__gina
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 10:57pm
GET OUT NOW - and get yourself some therapy so you won't make the same mistakes in the future!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 11:08pm

Welcome to the board lelafeellow.


Please call 1-800-977-SAFE and find out what they can do to help for both you and your kids.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 3:23pm
Talk to a lawyer about your options for child support and custody. I would file for sole custody and give them the examples you gave us. When it comes to your children's safety you can't act soon enough. Good luck to you and please feel free to post on the board anytime.