Things keep going from bad to worse...
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| Tue, 04-08-2008 - 3:24pm |
This relationship has had so many problems I really don't know where to begin, but I thought things were getting better because I finally got over my ex and my bf Anthony and I had been dating solidly for about a year and a half.
We go to college in different states, but we talked on the phone every day and made monthly visits to see each other. Everything was going great until last summer when we were home together - along with all of our friends. His best friend Mitch turned into his jealous girlfriend that wanted me nowhere near Anthony or any of our mutual friends. I was really hurt because Mitch along with Anthony and our mutual friends had all gotten along really well but suddenly I started getting left out of group activities or when I was there he would make it known that I wasn't welcome. I told my bf that I wouldn't make him choose, but if he continued to let Mitch disrespect me (he spit on me several times in front of my bf and he would do nothing!) I would end things. Sure enough, by the time we had to go back I had had enough and broke up with him.
Fast forward to now - Mitch is abroad for a semester and naturally my ex is now completely devoted to me, wants to get back together, can't sleep at night, calls me just to hear my voice, blah blah blah. I'm skeptical because I know that as soon as summer comes along, Mitch is going to come back home and everything is going to be exactly the same as it was last summer.
This is where it gets a little complicated - About a month ago, my ex's other best friend Jake that I really get along with got dumped by his girlfriend and we've been talking every day since. He's the nicest guy, sweet, funny, and we have a really solid friendship. Aside from the obvious awkwardness that would come up between me and my ex, the other problem is that Mitch has been best friends with Jake since they were in diapers and would be even more of a problem than he was between Anthony and I.
So I know the obvious answer is to branch out of my little group of friends and start dating in the outside world, but is there any way to get rid of this guy? He is the epitome of awful - everything he says is gospel, he cooks better than I do (according to his tastebuds and no one elses), his mom would have done a better job of redecorating my room, he's better at video games, he can drink more, whatever it is he turns it into a pissing contest and when he's clearly wrong he changes the topic to something he's knowledgable about (eg: if we're having a discussion he knows nothing about, he'll go into the other room and start playing piano loudly just to remind us all that he can play). He calls his friends by really homoerotic pet names (like "sweetiepie"), just everything about him sucks. Oh, and none of his friends are allowed to date unless he approves (because his fat frumpy obnoxious girlfriend is just as awesome as he is).
I broke up with Anthony because of this guy. If I went out with Jake I'd just be getting into the same situation. I really don't want my lovelife to depend on how well my boyfriend handles Mitch's attitude towards me, but that's how I feel. Should I try to work things out with Anthony? Should I try going out with Jake and just take things as they come? Should I throw Mitch into oncoming traffic? I mean these all sound like good ideas to me, but I'm just totally at a loss as to what I should do :/
-Beth

Welcome to the board dcmali06,
My advice, stay away from all of them.