Think I scared him off

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Think I scared him off
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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 3:39pm

I just need some advice. Hoping it's not to late.


I had just started dating someone a month ago, we had sex very quickly. In the first 2 weeks it was heaven he wanted to be with me all the time texting every hour. Then i did the bad thing and talked about "the boyfriend word" now we still see each other but he is wanting more time to himself. I was just wondering what I could do to show that I am fine with taking it slow. I just want it to progress gradually. I am hoping that i did'nt ruin everything already. Help !! I don't want to lose the chance for this to work.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 4:16pm

Welcome to the board harley19720,


Since things have been moving so quickly, it is normal that they would slow down a bit now. Plus it is normal for people to want some time to themselves.


If you did scare him off (which I don't think you did) by using the word "boyfriend" than you don't want to have

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 5:23pm

It was soon for your to mention the "boyfriend" word, but the relationship started in high gear and I guess you felt closer to him than one might in the short time you were together. There is nothing to do now, just be light about things. If he pulls away just because of that, then he's not someone who would stay around anyway. Some guys love the excitement of a new relationship, lots of romance, texting and intimacy. But, when it comes time to any kind of committment, they run for the hills. He could be one of these. All you can do now is not chase him at all, be yourself, be light about things with him, and see what happens. The ball is in his court right now.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 2:45am

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Registered: 10-09-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 7:29pm

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