thousands of miles from home and hes...
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thousands of miles from home and hes...
| Wed, 08-27-2008 - 4:00am |
my b/f and i have been together for 6 months. i found out i was pregnant a few months after we got together. we where living in washington(which is where Im from). and he ask if i wanted to move with him to colorado. i agreed.

And you stay with this guy because?!!!
Please ensure that you are taking some form of effective birth control.
You are experiencing a classic case of "but I love him" syndrome. You're willing to sacrifice your happiness, your well being, your sanity, and your family in order to feed this monster that is your attachment to your boyfriend.
I see in such a relatively short post the following mistakes going on:
1) You are in love with this man's potential, not who he really is. You see him for the person he is sometimes, or used to be, and are willing to overlook the times when he's awful to you in order to keep holding on to the times you assume he can be good again.
2) You are sacrificing yourself in order to be with him.
3) You love him more than he loves you.
Another phrase I hear a lot from people with "but I love him" syndrome: "it would be perfect if only he tried..."
Please, PLEASE, as a fellow woman to another, practice birth control. You are in charge of having babies or not, no man can ever make you get pregnant - it's YOUR choice. Please make the choice to wait, this is not a situation to bring a baby into, your guy has proven already that he is not father material.
You know that this relationship is not a good one. wiggly, it's very rare that two people break up because they just don't have any feelings for one another - people break up because the relationship isn't right for them. If you can't see this yet, you will; if you see it and can't make the choice to get out of this situation yet, you will. Maybe it will have to get worse. A miscarriage happens when your body says "this is not the right circumstance for me to carry a baby" either for physical or physiological reasons. Listen to it. A life with this man is filled with pain and probably an abusive future. At six months, you are seeing the BEST he has to offer. It does not get better. Please move back home where you can start healing with people who care about you.
Welcome to the board wiggly_widget,
Sounds like you put committment before compatibility, as reading your post, it's hard to see that the two of you have anything in common.