three little word missing 2 live 2gether

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Registered: 09-04-2003
three little word missing 2 live 2gether
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Wed, 01-07-2004 - 7:16am
Ok ladies I need some big advice here. my boyfriend who i love and care deeply about has not told me those 3 words -i love you. which is ok but the thing is he wants us to move in together in the spring when my lease is up. this may sound silly but this is one reason i dont think i can move in with him. We only have been dating for 3 months. It feels right in every other way than this. He is not a vocal person, praise and complitments come out once in awhile and we have had the talk about those words. I understand that its hard for him to say them because his parents divoce at a young age and everyone he has known has goten divorce or up and left. Should i drop it and when he is ready he is ready. I tell him a couple times in a week because i do feel it and refuse to stay mum on my emotions but on the same hand its killing me lately not getting any reply back. He does care I know he does..so should i drop it? not move in with him? any advice is great. thanks ladies

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 01-07-2004 - 11:58am
Well first of all, three months is pretty early to say those words. You may think you feel it, but it may be more of that 3-4 month lust period you are feeling. Don't feel bad about him not saying it. It took my boyfriend and I a year of dating to say it, but when he did I really felt he meant it. As far as moving in, that should be a decision based on something other than I love you. You don't sound like you are ready. Why should I love you mean anything when it comes to moving in together? Does that mean commitment to you? Just tell him that you are not ready to make that move yet. Leave the reason you feel that way out of the conversation because that could force him to say I love you without really meaning it. That could cause problems later on.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 01-07-2004 - 1:02pm

Three months is not only a short time frame to expect those three words, its also a short time to be deciding to move in together.If this is something you are sure you want to do, and wont be homeless shortly after, then dont worry about hearing I love you from him, especially if you are sure that he cares.