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Threesome or not
| Thu, 02-28-2008 - 8:46am |
I have been married for 10 years...my husband and I have two kids together. My husband has asked me if I would like to do a threesome. Now the thing is that I don't want to...but he wants to sleep with other women.....he has asked me and I have thought about it. Now I am very open minded but my heart is telling me no. Though I would like to have a threesome....I just don't feel comfortable. Yes I am attracted to the same sex. I am Bi but whether I am Bi or not if I have good chemistry with someone I don't care what sex you are. But I am so in love with my husband yet I find women attractive. But I just don't feel comfortable. What should I do, or what can I do.

You should follow your heart - don't do it!!
Always trust your heart in matters such as these. It's one thing to be attracted to someone, it's quite another to act upon it. Very often many complications ensue. And, especially, if you are so in love with your husband, it might well be very painful for you to see him having sex with another. I strongly urge both of you to enter couple counseling with a fine, well trained therapist to work these feelings and desires out.
All good wishes,
Welcome to the board jesrey1,
If you don't feel comfortable with having a threesome than don't do it. Don't allow your husband to pressure you into one either. 9 times out of 10 they end badly and do major damage to relationships anyway.
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"Now I am very open minded but my heart is telling me no"
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You have your answer already, if you don't feel comfortable, don't do it
Edited 3/1/2008 6:27 pm ET by boosfla
I agree with everyone else-don't do it to make your husband happy. But I wouldn't act all jealous and accuse him of having someone specific in mind who he might be hot for. I think all men fantasize about a threesome scenario--what guy wouldn't like 2 or more women focused specifically on him? :-)
I think that I would only consider a threesome if the woman was already involved in a relationship and I knew her relationship was solid. I also couldn't let my bf have intercourse with the girl. I just think that act is too sacred. Otherwise, I'd feel threatened.
I hope this doesn't get taken the wrong way but do you and your husband watch porn together? Maybe you can watch some threesome scenes--that might be a compromise. Or maybe once in a while you could pretend to be someone different-wear a wig or something. Or maybe meet him at a bar and pretend you don't know each other. There are lots of ways to spice things up w/out involving another person.