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Time to go??
| Wed, 08-01-2007 - 12:27pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 1/2 years. We got together when we were young, I was 20, he 19. I moved in with him and his parents when I was 21. Now at 27 all we do is fight. We've been through some tough times. I cheated, but we decided to work through it. He hasn't really cheated but has posted "wanted" ads on a couple personals sites and spoke with many girls on the phone. I feel as if that's cheating. Emotionally. When I cheated I told him that I did. Because I felt guilty. I found his personal ads online and confronted him about it. He denied it. And denied it. Then finally admitted to it. And everytime I've found out about something like that he's denied it. And never has had a straight answer on why he's done it. After badgering him about an answer he said he did it because he didn't know if it--our relationship--is what he wanted. Now it seems as if the love is gone. Our sex life is basically non-existent. We used to have a great one. I love him and he says he loves me. But does he? I'm on vacation visiting my family and it seems as if our fighting has gotten worse. All I do is worry about what he's doing? Is he looking for someone else? Does he already have someone else? And was just waiting for me to leave? I sit here depressed crying and I should be enjoying time with my family. I admit that I am being over paranoid. But talking it over with him I've agreed to put it all behind me. I've been doing a way better job about focusing on now and not the past. After talking about things he doesn't seem to want to talk to me. Does he just need some space? I mean I am gone on vacation. How much space does he need? I just don't know anymore. Is it time to move on? We both say that we want to work on our relationship and ourselves. But to me it seems doomed. Does anyone out there have some advice for me? I don't know if I've actually posted everything so feel free to ask me any ?'s you might have.

What about all the things we have together? Joint bank accounts? How do you figure out who gets what? He has definitely made a lot more money over the years than I have.
Thank you for your reply. It helps hearing that he isn't the one for me. I guess I'm just scared. 6 years is a long time and I guess I'd feel as if I was throwing all that time away. But I don't want to continue being unhappy. I'm scared that I won't make it on my own. Won't find anyone. But things get better right?