Tips for a good relationship.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tips for a good relationship.
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Sun, 08-05-2012 - 6:45pm

OK, so we all know the basics which make for a good relationship - communication, respect, love, honesty etc.    But I'm hoping we can all share one SPECIFIC thing you do which makes your relationship good.

For me, I'd have to say that learning to not sweat the small stuff is so helpful for keeping a calm environment.   And I know that DH does it back in return for things I might say.     It's so easy to jump on everything which rubs us up the wrong way, but I prefer to really pick my battles.   To leave my negative reactions for things which are very important.     

Not sweating the small stuff means that we never have 'stupid' fights.   On the rare occasion we do disagree, it's going to be over something which is significant and truly does need to be addressed.  

What do you do to make your relationship a good one?

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 10:06am
Examples. Hmmmm.

I guess one good example is I know my DH appreciates a good meal. So I do my best to cook often and to always look at how I can improve.

We make it a point to still court eachother like we did when we were dating.

We pay attention to eachothers needs and we communicate well.
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Registered: 08-08-2011
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 1:38am
My piece of a mosaic:
1. Each partner should know exactly which language of love is understood by his/her SO (Ref. Five language of love). And should give the love in appropriate language on a daily basis.
2. Partner with lower sex drive should take care not to neglect sexual part of relationships and gents should take care not to neglect emotional well being of their DWs.
3. Couple should take a few days off from time to time for just being together and do nothing else.
4. Me and my DW participate in a group of married couples which is a sort of preventive support marriage group. We are part of this group since we married 20 yrs ago just as all the other 10 couples. We both agree that this group of friends is a huge support and encouragement to have firm and warm relationship.
If a couple have a chance to enrol something like that, I'd warmly advise it.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 8:12pm

So true.  It's amazing how much better my garden did when I moved the aspect and gave it water ;-)

Can you give examples of the kind of care and maintenance you give your marriage?

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 7:31pm

Anything worth while requires care and maintenance.  Whether it be a garden, your home or relationship. If you want it to stay fantastic, you have to keep at it.

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