tired all the time

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Registered: 07-27-2004
tired all the time
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Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:34am
Dear All,

I have been dating my girlfriend for a while and we both love each other and want to get married someday. We have an extremely open relationship and our communication is excellent. But there seems to be one recurring issue that we just can't seem to sort out. She is a personal trainer and works really long hours. Whenever I see her in the evenings, within an hour of me being there she falls asleep, coz she is so exhausted.

I know that she tries so hard to stay awake and I try so hard not to get frustrated and we have tried to compromise e.g three nights a week she can fall asleep while I lie there and cuddle with her and on the weekends we do things sothat she stays awake. But this still takes its toll on us and I am left frustrated and depressed and she feels worthless.

What can we do? Breaking up is not an option, I really believe that the only day we should break up is when we stop loving each other and we both are tired of trying. I don't want to lose her due to circumstances.

Please help, we both try so hard, but it is draining us emotionally.

HELP!

thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 7:29am
i may be stating the obvious here - but has your gf been seen by a doctor? is she eating properly? is she perhaps expending too much energy at work?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 8:34am
I am afraid that is the problem she is overworked but there is nothing that can be done about that.

So I was hoping that there is something that can be done about me being frustrated and depressed and her feeling worthless as our time spent together generally involevs her being too tired to talk or she falls asleep. Quitting her job is not an option

Anyone else in this situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:42am
Which is more important, her job or your relationship? If breaking up and quitting her job are not options, then I think you are out of options. You may as well get used to suffering. Go to Marriagebuilders.com and see if you can get some more advice...