Tired of Giving

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tired of Giving
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 3:42pm
My bf and I have been together for three years next month. The relationship has been a dramatic one, filled with lots of ups and down. Through it all we're still here and claim to love each other very much. However, at times it doesn't seem like it.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 5:57pm

Mystifying, you've just given a

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 5:58pm

You're right. He is having a hard time and probably doesn't feel very good about himself, but that's absolutely no excuse to be mean and to put you down. That is abusive behavior and there's no excuse for it under any condition. Absolutely none at all. Why are you accepting it? Why do all the work and get all the blame? It's his way of keeping you also feeling badly about yourself, so you won't see through this and won't be able to leave him. It's not your job to take care of him indefinitely. You've been great and now he has to take the ball, in all ways. Don't accept abuse from him or anyone. You deserve much better than that.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 6:18pm

Adding to my previous post.....


It's time for you to put your foot down.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 11:27pm

Welcome to the board mystifying1,


While he is going through a bad time, taking it out on you is not appropriate.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 11:36pm
You can either break up or have a talk where the two of you lay new groundrules for getting along better during trying times.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 12:39pm

I think you all for your helpful responses.