Tired of it all, whats my problem?

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Registered: 10-11-2007
Tired of it all, whats my problem?
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 3:01pm
OK I have posted here many times, and I want to thank everyone for the advice.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 1:22pm

Welcome back to the board upsetandconfused,


It seems like you might have some trust issues. Otherwise I don't think you would be worrying some much about these calls and texts and calling his work to see if he is still there and timing to back sure that he makes it home when he should.


It appears that you have talked to him about this and that he isn't willing to change. I don't think there is anything you can do to make him stop this behavior. Sorry.

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Registered: 12-21-2007
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 5:34pm
I know for my phone service I have the ability to print off all the texts I've sent and recieved for that month.
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Registered: 10-11-2007
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 4:56pm

I have contacted my cell provider.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 7:35pm

"That just tells me that she is trying to make me look bad to him. That tells me that she is probably interested in him."

I agree with you. Do you ever talk to this girl? Have you tried making friends with her? Is your husband open about their relationship and does he welcome you to accompany them?

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Registered: 10-11-2007
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 11:08pm
This is the problem.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 6:45am

I have to admit, I've never worked at a company where if coworkers go out, spouses/girlfriends/boyfriends aren't welcome to join. It sounds as though he is making up this rule specifically for you. I'm guessing that other people bring their significant others, and he is making an attempt to seem single.

So... This is really not a good sign. I don't like when significant others make an effort to exclude their loved ones from their lives. A healthy relationship is one where you feel included, or at least welcome, in his friendships. 3-5 phone calls a day from a particular girl that you've never met is not right.

Since changing his behavior is clearly out of your control, I hope that your counselor gives you some good options for how to proceed with this.