Tired of my fiancee

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Registered: 04-27-2003
Tired of my fiancee
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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:22pm
Hi everyone!

I have an odd question. I seem to be plain sick and tired of my fiancee. That is to say, we've been dating for 20 months now and it's always been good. We never fight about anything big, we agree often, he is the boyfriend that girls would wish they had.. putting me first ALL of the time, buying me things, putting up with my personality. lol. Also loving unconditionally and the guy doesn't even have a wondering eye like 98% of other guys do. If a sexy women walks by, they will gawk, but he doesn't!

For the past, Oh... I'd say 3 months he has been getting on my nerves. He hasn't changed, he is still the same way he was when I met him, gorgeous, sweet, hard working, caring, just amazing. Well, I've found myself less attracted to him in general. We haven't been intimate(aka sex) in over a month in a half to two months and I just don't even want his body near me most of the time. If we're at my house, I make him sleep in his room etc.

Two weeks ago we went on vacation for a week to the Dominican Republic. A trip that I hoped would re-light a flame that was dying to me. To make a long story short, it didn't. We had a good time, but my love for him is dying and I see him more as just a really good friend now. I don't know. It's how my mind is working for me.

He proposed to me in late july and after about a month of glee and excitement, I just got fed up. I don't want to leave b/c I love him and I know it's a big mistake, but I do b/c I'm still young... I am only 20!!! and I think I should experience more things.

I don't know what's going on with my mentality or what my problem is. I have a great guy and I am neglecting the fact. It's simple. I don't understand it. Please let me know what you think my problem is.

I don't go around checking other guys out, I don't have interest in other guys period, I simply feel like a HUGE loss of interest is over me and I just don't care at all anymore. How am I supposed to get married to someone if soon enough I might not even be able to look at his face. Am I selfish? I have no idea where this all is coming from... does anyone have any ideas/suggestions on what I should do to save or end this?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 8:35pm
maybe you should try talking to him

hes dying for you to talk to him.....me:'(

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 9:03pm
well as u can tell im rose_jk's fiancee......

im glad someone on here cared enough to email my at beer to send me this link.

weve had this problem for a long time now i knew we did but when i try talking about it i get now where most the time not even a response like talking to a wall. i do put her 100% infront of myself but thats because the way i was raised, im youngest of 3 so i had to learn to share everything! i dont have a degree i have a grade 12 i work for a huge company and make about 45,000 a year and in 3 years i plan to be a millwright (unfortunatel i have a huge wait to get it...politics) and that pays 70-80 000. i cant afford school my family isnt well off so post secondary was never an option and until i can save enough to do some home schooling i cant go anywhere. now realize when your helping US that shes going to school to become the best lawyer ever, adn that scares me sometimes. i love her drive and i know shell suceed without a doubt in my mind but that puts her fiancially on a way higher level then myself and i dont wanther to think im using her for her money. the sex thing is really fustrating i didnt realize its that bad.....it hurts when you hear i rarely want it and when i do not with him but just anyone.......... i have alot of female friends that i know she doesnt like, and because of that i dont really talk to any of them anymore. we both have envested alot of time and emotion into our relationship and we dont have a date set but its not for another few years anyways... pplease help us the best u can and whoever sent me this link thank you

josh the fiancee

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:11pm
well it turns out after i confronted her about this message that she needs to handle it on her own and think im spying now so thanks but no thanks Suzy Que "> i apreciate ur concern but more damage has been done. im leaving this forum so she can find out what shes feeling and whats going on with her so she can help us, i hope everyone can help us it is appreciated from me

thanks
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Registered: 10-04-2003
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 8:26am
What an unpleasant woman. I can't understand why this "wonderful man" is with her, she is abusive, rascist, arrogant and way up her own backside. Good luck Josh, but remember, be careful what you wish for.

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