told him I needed space so he dumped me
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told him I needed space so he dumped me
| Wed, 07-30-2008 - 3:20pm |
My boyfriend and I have had a fantastic long distance relationship for the past 15 months.
| Wed, 07-30-2008 - 3:20pm |
My boyfriend and I have had a fantastic long distance relationship for the past 15 months.
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Hon, honestly to me it sounds like maybe he got tired of the drama.
Welcome to the board lola628,
It is possible that he took your statement of wanting space as meaning that you wanted to break up so he did it first. Honestly, though you email him and said you didn't want to lose him and there isn't much more you can do at this point. Wait and if you haven't heard from him in a week email him back and ask him to talk to you. If he doesn't respond to that there is nothing you can do.
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lola, I don't want you to take this the wrong way but he did the right thing and I would have done it, too. Wanting space in a long distance relationship is like... not wanting a long distance relationship. You don't get much more space than 3,000 miles, as the other poster said. All things considered, it wasn't worth staying in this relationship. Of course he doesn't want to be friends, you can't be friends after something like this happens. Not immediately, anyway. Again, not to sound too harsh, but it sounds as though you could learn a few things about how to deal with men and breakups. I hope you were able to get your thoughts out by writing to him. If he doesn't respond then you'll know that he's serious about not wanting to be in this anymore. You've put yourself out there, let him mull it over - the ball is in his court, so to speak, as much as I hate that expression. Beyond that there's nothing you can do. The harder you push someone the further they get from you.
I do wish you the best of luck and I hope he decides to come back to you. Every relationship goes through a period of reflection - you were within your rights to be honest with him about your feelings, but do realize that he's just as entitled to be disappointed and hurt enough to do this. Good luck and I'm sorry about what happened.
Edited 7/30/2008 11:09 pm ET by lola628
Lola, I feel for you - especially since I understand very well how it is to be in a relationship like yours - mine has also been long distance (Europe/US) for the last 15 months, so I know just how difficult it is to go from feast to famine with the visits and the time in between.
I think unfortunately, he is realizing the extreme amount of work, frustration and aggravation a LDR is.
I wouldn't be happy with a few times a year either.
He's a professor, his next break will be in the fall, so he'd have to travel to Chicago to see me at that point.
Coolas -
Do you both discuss when you will see each other again?
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