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Too busy for a relationship?
| Thu, 04-26-2007 - 11:41am |
Here's the deal. I met this wonderful guy 3 years ago. We quickly became best friends, and I fell in love with him. For issues out of our control, he had to leave the friendship. During this "time apart" I didn't date anyone...there wasn't any other guy that would interest me. Recently he has come back into my life. I told him that I loved him, and he was really respectful with his response that he doesn't have time for a relationship. See, he works in politics (he's an intern for a congresswoman) and he is always busy. I know, because the night I poured my heart to him, people were calling his work phone at 2am! So, a week later he told my sister that he is really busy right now to be in a relationship. He hopes that in a year things will calm down. And when it does, he will consider me. Ok, not the answer I was looking for, but is that a positive response or just a subdle blow-off?

Maybe in a year from now, you won't be available. He was trying to be respectful and honorable. There is no value in trying to twist this into something negative.
Also consider this - let's say he did want to date you right now. Would you become jealous or resentful that the majority of his time is spent in professional association with a Congresswoman?
This is a great example why we as men have to be so very careful in what we say to women.
Welcome the to board mariposa_21,
It is hard to say if he was telling the truth or not, but either way I don't think you should wait around for him. Because what if you do and in a year he still isn't ready?
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He was honest, even if he didn't have the conversation with you.
Peace,
Di
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