Too Many Chances!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2008
Too Many Chances!
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 12:26pm

Where do I start.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2007
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 12:39pm
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds to me that this relationship went way too fast and you guys were forcing something with the arrival of your daughter (him kind of reluctantly), when in fact you didn't really know each other well enough.

If there never was a solid, happy, foundation for a relationship to grow on, then I really don't know how you get that back if you never had it. I think it's required for a happy future. Your foundation sounds inadequate to me.

Frankly anger and lying are enough right there to tell me I will not have a hpapy long term relationship with this guy. All the great qualities in the word are going to be trumped by lying and anger - in every instance.

I would suggest you look at your history. You have 3 years of things not going great - it might be good for 2 months, but it's never long lasting. In fact, all those times when things were better, you were really convinced that it was all good now, but they never lasted as you can see. That's because he's probably not capable of making real personality/character changes. He is who is he. It’s not like he’s biting his nails and has a quirky habit, these are core personality issues you are looking at. That’s the stuff that you don’t really change in a person.

Can you see yourself with him forever if this it is? The next 50 years are like the past 3 years?
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 12:42am

You shouldn't leave "yet again" should leave permanently.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 11:43am

I think that you need to put an end to this relationship permanently, mainly because of the anger issue.