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Too much family
| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:28pm |
I don't know how to deal with this. I am living in STBH's house, we've been together 3 years. I have a DD (16) and he has a DS (17) that lives with us. He has family members that live withing seconds of each other, and has a brother that comes over and takes it upon himself to use his tools in the garage, leave lights on, his kids come over and wreck stuff and it drives me crazy. His DD, who also lives in the direct vicinity has a DD, who we are often asked to babysit (actually not asked, but demanded). I've set a few ground rules, like not babysitting overnight anymore (we both work in the morning and its too hard to get a 5 year old off) When we have to pick her up from daycare, she doesn't normally come home to get her daughter right away, or she is always asking to stay for dinner, because she is too busy partying or hasn't gone food shopping. I really love the kids a lot, but I feel like its imposing on our time, and I'm starting to resent it a little. We have discussed moving when the kids are out of high school, because he built this house with his ex and I'm not 100% comfortable, but I don't feel like I have any privacy and our lives revolve around his family. I really love him dearly, but I blew up the other night and said I felt I didn't have any privacy and maybe I should just move out (I used to have my own apartment with my daughter). I really do like where I'm living but I don't know what to do, or how to change my attitude. I feel like we get walked on by everyone. Any advice?

Carrie
I really do love SD, and I understand its hard, but she's out to "find the ONE", I just feel she needs to stop trying so hard, she has every other weekend free of her daughter, she shouldn't be out 3 or 4 nights a week, and every weekend she has her at least 1 of the nights, and away for the weekend when her daughter's dad picks her up (well, that's okay I guess) Sorry this is such a rant. The main point is I just feel overwhelmed - partially because I feel like I have no control over the comings and goings in my own house. I really should't get that involved in her and her daughter, I guess.