Too Opposite to Attract?
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| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:46pm |
He is conservative, and I am VERY liberal. He listens to Rush Limbaugh, always wants to buy American, is part of a union, and voted for Bush. He thinks homosexuals should not be allowed to marry, and he thinks abortion should be outlawed. I have the exact opposite views. I am VERY political (I have a B.A. and an M.A. in Political Science, and work in government), so like talking about politics, but every time we talk, we end up in a fight!
And as for religion, I was Jewish but don't practice anymore, I guess I'm an agnostic, but he is born-Again Christian, and loves to tell me what the bible says, and is always trying to talk to me about Jesus! I almost did an M.A. in Religious Studies, so I know a lot more about religion than he does from his bible-thumping classes, but he refuses to listen to my point of view or anything I say about the subject. I actually got up and walked out of a restaurant on him last weekend, because he said that dinosaurs couldn't be millions of years old because the bible was only written 6000 years ago, and that was when god created the world. AGGHHH!!!
My mom always tries to tell me that opposites attract, and I really do love him, but I wonder if we aren't too opposite to make things work? I don't want to get married and have him telling our children that Jesus is the only way to get into heaven, or that gay people are sinners! Does anyone have any personal experience with a spouse who has VERY different viewpoints from your own? Thanks

Erin
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think about that, what is important to you? and what exactly is it you love about him?
"Opposites attract, but people who are alike marry"
A marriage totally changes after you have children and these issues are bigger than love. They will drive you apart.
There are plenty of nice guys with similar or at least livable belief systems. He is very extreme in his ways.
He won't change - so you have a decision - you can live with it or without it. 10 years from now the romance will not be there in the way you see it today.
Good luck - it is not easy I know.