Too sensitive

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Too sensitive
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Mon, 02-02-2004 - 11:46am
Hi everyone,

My bf and I have been together for a year. We are both divorced and are very honest w/ each other. However he did lie to me once in the beginning of our relationship. He wanted to be friends w/ a girl that was hot, he told her about me but she wanted a relationship w/ him and he said sorry and ended it. Its something that if I didnt find out on my own it would have never effected us. Sometimes knowing hurts more than not knowing.

Anyway that was over 7 months ago. Since then our relationship has been good. I believe sometimes you need to get through something in a relationship to make sure he/she is the one.

But for some reason I cant get over his moods. Ya know when your guy isnt giving you 100% attention I feel he's falling out of love w/ me. I'm always thinking and over analyzing the relationship. He knows how I feel I dont think a day goes by that I dont mention something about how I feel. I'm so negative. He's happy and in love with me he shows it, says it etc. I think he's at a loss of what to do. I just want to feel happy and safe even when he's in a "mood". Its not a bad mood he's just not giving me his undivided attention. Which I cant understand why I need that so much. I love him but I'm so tired of the anxiety and the worrying. I have no support from my friends since what he did in the beginning of the relationship has made them not like or trust him. And when I go to them they dont know why I'm w/ him. Which makes me more upset. I feel like I'm loosing my mind. I just want to enjoy this.

Thanks for listening

Love

Helene

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: helene2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 12:04pm

I remember your posts on another board, but what I can't remember is, are you (still) in counseling?

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Registered: 01-02-2004
In reply to: helene2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 1:00pm
No I'm not in counceling anymore. I honestly cant afford it. And everytime I left I left in tears since she always made me feel I should leave Dave. I just want support ya know. Someone to tell me its ok let him love you. That we are still together and that has to mean something. I'm just tired of all the negativity on our relationship.

Thanks again

Helene

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Registered: 01-02-2004
In reply to: helene2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 1:25pm
P.S. I forgot to mention I'm also on anti depression. Something I have been battling for the past 10 yrs. Its hard to know if its the relationship making me sad or the meds. I've been on this new kind for about 3 months.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: helene2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 2:52pm

Hmm...personally, I would do whatever it takes to get back into counseling.

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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: helene2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 5:43pm
'she always made me feel I should leave Dave. '

Why do you think she did that?