torn

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Registered: 07-26-2004
torn
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:45pm
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and lately we've been fighting and I just don't feel totally connected to him like before. I've recently found out that one of his acquaintances really likes me and hopes he has a chance with me, despite my current boyfriend. He says it would not bother him if he broke us up because him and my boyfriend aren't that close, and he likes me so much. When I met him for the first time I was instantly attracted to him, so hearing this news excited me. It's hard for me to decide what I should do - am I feeling this way because of my situation with my boyfriend, or do I really like this guy, and should I get to know him. Would it be bad if I started emailing him on a friend basis until I decide whether I really like him or not?

Please help, I'm so confused and it hurts to feel this way

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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: brianneleah27
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 9:19pm
'Would it be bad if I started emailing him on a friend basis until I decide whether I really like him or not?'

That is fine as long as you break up with your boyfriend before you send that first email.

If you aren't connecting then get out. Don't overlap boyfriends. Be mature and do the respectful thing.

You don't want this new guy paranoid that you may be emailing other guys to get to know them as 'friends' while you are dating him anyway.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: brianneleah27
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 8:27am

How would your boyfreind react to hearing that you