Torn between my Ex and my best friend
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| Mon, 04-23-2007 - 11:03pm |
Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl who is single but seeing my best friend. My best friend is this really awesome guy who has wholesome values and treats me like a gem. Thing is, he has taken a celibacy vow last birthday to remain single till his next, which is in a few days time. We were already pretty intimate physically even though we're remaining 'just friends'. I know this is wrong but i just can't fight my attraction for him and its the same for him. It also seems like he was unable to make me his girlfriend because of his vow.
Secondly met my ex-boyfriend again sometime last month and he's been calling and asking to see me again. But i feel like i'm cheating on my best friend whenever i'm with my ex or whenever my ex calls when im with my best friend. My ex kissed me the last time we met, and although i didn't love him anymore, i just felt tempted to kiss him back and i did. And there was no feeling when we kissed, i just felt like i needed to feel that familiar feeling of having him again.
Lately my ex has been calling and texting me pretty often, asking if we could continue seeing each other. THE THING IS, i don't love him anymore, but i feel like i wouldn't mind if we met up just to make out. I love my best friend, and i don't know why i'm thinking this way! I know i shouldn't continue anything with my ex behind my friend's back because i'd feel awful if i cheated on him, and i dont wanna hurt him because he's my everything.
Can anyone give me advice on how i should deal with my ex, while maintaining our friendship, and how to think because i feel so confused when i thought i could see both guys... Wouldnt it be a crime to see two people at a time??? Please help!

Welcome to the board belle58,
Regarding the situation with your ex and him wanting to get back together with you. You need to let him know that you aren't interested in a romantic relationship just a physical one.
As far as seeing both guys, as long as all parties are in agreement that they are in open relationships where that is allowed than that would be okay. If not, that it wouldn't be and if there is any question about if it is allowed it should be addressed.
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