Torn between my husband and child
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Torn between my husband and child
| Tue, 02-03-2004 - 7:07pm |
I have been married for three years now.My husband went to jail for two years of it.I filed for a divorce but never went through with it.I now have a child by another man.Me and my husband where trying to work things out but he said in order for things to work I have to cut off all ties with the other man and his family.I am twenty-three and still to this day have never seen my real father,I don't want my little girl to know what that is like,but I also don't want my other two children to lose their father either.Is there any way we can all just get along for the childrens sake?????

Edited 2/3/2004 7:48:47 PM ET by itwinflame
Carrie
Of course, I know it is really complicated since I'm guessing that he did not intend the marriage to end, and he may view the daughter as the product of your having "cheated" on him. Question is, even if you do keep your daughter and you do get him back into your life, how will he treat your daughter? You may feel that your sons need a father, but is this guy really going to be a good influence upon your sons. And more importantly, how would he treat your daughter. If you think he would be mean or abusive to your daughter, why would you want him around either you or your sons?
Think about this in the long-term. You may not really want what you are asking for.
James
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