Torn

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Torn
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 10:43am

First let me say I'm 26 with 2 little girls(5, 2). My husband and I are currently separate after a year of hell. last July my husband was fired from him job because he couldn't keep him mouth shut. After than happened he went into a downward spiral of depression. He was prescribe medication to help with his depression and was also visiting a psychologist. The medication seem to be working for a bit but then he for some reason he stopped taking them.(he was also taking sleeping pills to help him sleep at night). Once he stopped talking his medication things went to hell. It was like living with Hyde and jekyll, He locked me and kids out of

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Registered: 09-28-2011
In reply to: alimars16
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 10:43pm

update: the girls father has job working in az after not working for a year.

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In reply to: alimars16
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 8:51am
I wonder where he's getting it, since he's supposedly not working.
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In reply to: alimars16
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 12:27am

My bad, I meant to say $65 per week......period!!

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In reply to: alimars16
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 6:34pm
He may be addressing his depression by taking meds but I would not be too sure how he is addressing his work behavior or even more importantly he is not taking responsibility by not supporting you and his children monetarily.

I see those things as bigger issues. Will he be able to financially contribute by holding a job? I wonder how responsible he is even if he did get a job again?

I see what has happened as an opportunity to see your husband as he truly is. If you want you and your children to be happy and secure then his past behavior has not demonstrated that.

Mark
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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: alimars16
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 1:17pm
I'm not sure I agree that $300 per month equals $65 per week per child; it's more like $37.50 per week per child, while $65/week/child comes to $520. Nonetheless, as you say, it's a good amount for a man who's not employed.

I also agree that you are giving him all the power in your relationship. You need to make up your mind what you want for yourself and your children, and start working toward getting it.
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In reply to: alimars16
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:09am

It's not unusual for people on antidepressants to stop taking their meds when they start to feel better.