Total disregard of my feelings??
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Total disregard of my feelings??
| Sun, 02-08-2004 - 12:45pm |
Hi All
Im 20 yrs old and i have been with my Bf who is 21 for a year and 1/2. We had a wonderful relationship, but now it has been full of disappointments. Most of which are because of him canceling plans, or doing what he wants, ignoring my feelings. I think ive had my fill of disappointments but its so hard to let go because i love him so much. He was everything i wanted when we met, and he was so passionate, so loving, so affectionate.
The latest story is as follows: Tuesday i was feeling real sick but i had to go in to my resturaunt and work. I called everyone to see if someone can help me out, no one could. So i tried my Bf since he's helped out at the restuaunt before *and has told me if u ever need my help call me*, so he answered and i asked, but he said he was busy with friends and wouldnt do it. He told me good luck. So i was kinda mad and hung up. Wednesday night we had plans, he calls and cancels cause he says that i acted like a brat and he doesnt want to see me. So we got in a huge fight and after all of it, he finally said ok..saturday ill make it up to you, and ill take you out *because hes promised for the past 2 weeks*. I said ok, and he said ill call u later with the details. Well..saturday was yesterday and we didnt go out, nor did i even recieve a phone call to tell me this. What is his logic behind this?? Shouldnt he be even more aware that he has been on shaky ground, then pulls a move like that? Not even a phone call. Whenever i tell him thats its over, he doesnt want to let go.. but yet he can do whatever he wants, cause he believes that i should just accept the fact that he doesnt want to be in a "serious" relationship. I was curious as to all your opinions on the matter... ???
Im 20 yrs old and i have been with my Bf who is 21 for a year and 1/2. We had a wonderful relationship, but now it has been full of disappointments. Most of which are because of him canceling plans, or doing what he wants, ignoring my feelings. I think ive had my fill of disappointments but its so hard to let go because i love him so much. He was everything i wanted when we met, and he was so passionate, so loving, so affectionate.
The latest story is as follows: Tuesday i was feeling real sick but i had to go in to my resturaunt and work. I called everyone to see if someone can help me out, no one could. So i tried my Bf since he's helped out at the restuaunt before *and has told me if u ever need my help call me*, so he answered and i asked, but he said he was busy with friends and wouldnt do it. He told me good luck. So i was kinda mad and hung up. Wednesday night we had plans, he calls and cancels cause he says that i acted like a brat and he doesnt want to see me. So we got in a huge fight and after all of it, he finally said ok..saturday ill make it up to you, and ill take you out *because hes promised for the past 2 weeks*. I said ok, and he said ill call u later with the details. Well..saturday was yesterday and we didnt go out, nor did i even recieve a phone call to tell me this. What is his logic behind this?? Shouldnt he be even more aware that he has been on shaky ground, then pulls a move like that? Not even a phone call. Whenever i tell him thats its over, he doesnt want to let go.. but yet he can do whatever he wants, cause he believes that i should just accept the fact that he doesnt want to be in a "serious" relationship. I was curious as to all your opinions on the matter... ???

Edited 2/9/2004 10:07:22 AM ET by jap524
In other words, - when he wants to see you - he will, when he wants to hang out - he will, when he wants to help out or be there for you - he will. and when he doesn't want to be around you, listen to you, be there for you - he won't.
The problem isn't him....it's you.
You keep relying on, depending on, prioritizing him.....and he's not doing any of that for you, you know he's not going to - he'd told you this is not serious - it's just about fun, sex, and companionship and whatever the "moment" offers.
Stop looking at this as if he's committed to you, your needs, and your long-term well being - he's not. He's told you as much.
Erin
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