Tottaly Confused Just Need A Friend

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Tottaly Confused Just Need A Friend
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Thu, 06-12-2008 - 9:29am
good morning everyone. i just really need someone to talk with right now/vent to. ive been friends with this guy for five years. we dated for 6months and broke up cause he was tired of hearing me always complain how he cancels things on me whether its for work or his friends. not once in awhile it would be a lot. anyway i also didnt like the fact that he wanted to keep his personal life to himself and when the time came he would share with others what he thought was nessacary. im not use to that so i didnt feel comfortable with it and he of course never showed me anything to have me feel secure i guess the word is. anyway were still friends and time to time we do sexual things and he says how he misses me when we are doing that and when we arent he says it too. we have cute little pet names for one another and were pretty close he tells me more things basically then anyone else. he likes to run his mouth and i get hurt cause i take it personal which wouldnt anyone if they keep hearing that over n over again his mouth running saying rude/mean things when he gets pissy about something? i get hurt and i get emotional, our friendship and him are very important to me i enjoy having him in my life and without the opening his mouth saying crap times things r good. i dont know what im trying to get to hear i guess i just need to get this out maybe but id love to hear feedback from an outsider. i go to see him where he lives which is an hour away.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 4:39pm

Just because you come back together all the time doesn't mean it is a good thing, actually breaking up and getting back together is showing you it is not a healthy relationship...A healty relationship works out problems and fixes them, they don't break up and get back together..if the problem is not fixed the first time it just keeps showing back up and your problems with him are not fixed so you are spinning your wheels and getting no where.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 5:13pm

Your relationship will not improve without boundaries and communication and I'm not even sure that will work.

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 5:20pm

hello and thank you for your kindness


the annoying thing is is that when i find a guy who does treat me great he too turns into the same situation maybe not exactly but similar. and the guy i am talking about in this whole post is the only one who i always go back to and he comes back to me. i do not mean gf bf wise. i just mean as friend when he upsets me i get hurt n stuff n he comes n makes me better n then things go fine till the next outburst. last month was the real deal of us not being friends again n i told him he needs to show me he wants me in his life n stuff and he was doing well until his sister had to make a huge thing out of something that i felt was small. then now these past two days were ruined cause of her n cause he couldnt just realise things its just nuts so i got upset lastnight again n i said i told u thta was it y u being like this i guess u didnt believe me when i said that enough is enough. and like he fell asleep and i got more upset then he held me and today before he left for work he was trying to b cute n stuff.


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Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 8:49pm

You keep calling him a friend. Well, none of my friends are mean to me.


Your posts are so sad. You are getting something out of this horrible relationship. What it is? What do you enjoy or need

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 11:54am

hello everyone, and thank you for not giving up on me or getting angry n stuff at me.


i enjoy spending time with him cause it helps me get away from my house,my life and just where i live basically. i also enjoy spending time with him cause he shes me attention and we hangout have a nice time laugh and be our selves, we go here n there n its really nice. i like how he is all cute with me n playful and that he can be himself around me as well. hes gotton bad these past twoyears i guess its himself truly showing i guess. just recently i found out he treats his mom and his sister the same way. i do not enjoy him verbaly or emotionaly abuseing me but it doesnt happen every moment of the day. it just happens if i dont know like i dont get something the first or second time or like if i dont save or eat all my food i dont know its little things then he looses his patients and he goes off. but its done with quickly and he isnt saying it to enjoy it hes saying it cause thats how he communicates

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 12:02pm

How old are you?


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Registered: 03-29-2008
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 12:12pm

hello


i dont have many friends and the friends i do have are quite annoying or and to busy. the friends i do have i didnt get rid of them because they werent making my life worse. the one true friend i do have has a baby so we cant do much, at times i go over her house for about two hours but thats about it or we chat on the phone for like three hours twice a week but thats about it. most of my friends that i have left are annoying and ill probably get rid of those too and then the rest r just to busy to even care or be a friend and etc.


i go to college yes i am almost 25,

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