Is this true??
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Is this true??
| Fri, 07-16-2004 - 11:10am |
I've been told that when guys fall in love, they know it instantly. That they pretty much know right away if the person that they are with is "the one" and that the feeling hits you like a ton of bricks. That it doesn't take people months or years to fall in love, but instantly. Any takes on this??? I thought it was different for everyone based on the relationship itself but I'm being told that it pretty much isn't. Is this true?? What is it really like?!?!?! Does it make a difference if one or both people had problems with previous relationships?

It various by person, their personality, baggage, upbringing, nature, nuture, preferences, morals, beliefs, etc.
Who is telling you this?
I hope what you are being told isn't true!
My Bf and I have been together for 8 months and he doesn't love me. He is great and he is so good to me that it is hard to imagine that he doesn't love me. But we talked about it and he says he isn't sure. He told me that he wants to love me - which is just about the worst thing anyone has ever said to me. It just emphasizes that he doesn't. He said that we haven't known each other very long - but it seems like long enough to me. It really bothers me. It is like a broken record (or a scratched CD for the younger people in the audience) it keeps repeating over and over in my head "He doesn't love me, he doesn't love me." I guess it is so important to me because no one has ever loved me (romantic relationships I mean, family and friends love me). Do I pick men who can't love? Or is there something about me that is unloveable? In many ways it is a very good relationship and, like I said earlier, he is great and good to me. How long should I wait? Could it be true that he does just need more time? Or after 8 months are we just kidding ourselves? I want to be with him, but I also want to be loved.
Jessica
Romantic love is a great feeling but on the long run, you can't hope for the passion to stay that way, it always takes more than passion to be in love in a long term.
may take a little longer. Everyone is different in their own way . When it
comes to love , why not be different there too ?
When my husband and I met , we both knew right away. It may sound nuts , but we
moved in together after knowing each other for only two weeks. We got engaged after
being together six months and married a year after getting engaged. I got pregnant
with our son about five months after being married. We've been married for 3 1/2
years........been together almost five. Even though things moved quickly with us ,
it's always felt right.
So , when it comes to love , almost anything can happen.
Heather
Jessica