The True Player?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2004
The True Player?
6
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:41am
Im currently seeing this guy and everything about him seems to good to be true. I've never dated a guy with his qualities. He is very mysterious and doesnt say much about himself, but ask me a ton of questions about me. Its like he doesnt care? He's tall dark handsome,very clean cut and well built. Great personality. Positive attitude.Extremely confident. Doesnt drink nor smoke. Works with kids, an athlete. He dresses very good. He always matches, always dressing up. Doesnt wear jeans out to a club when we go. He'll wear really fancy white clothes. He has his own place and a sports car. All these things i see, but he doesnt really talk about. He keeps his answers short. He's very respectful towards me, and does show affection,and when he's with me, all his eyes and attention are on me. Ive never dated one of these, so is there anything i should watch for?? Something's telling me i cant trust him?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 11:40pm
I'm sorry but I'm goin to be honest thats a player a true player. Keep answers short so u can keep up with ur lie. I use to play that game 2.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 11:42pm
and yes I'm a female
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 1:40am
Keep answers short so u can keep up with ur lie? HUH?

Why do they keep answers short? Y dont they say much?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 12:11pm
bump
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 1:10pm
You have a choice here.

You can approach things from the position of "Guilty until proven innocent" where you constantly judge every single word and action searching for negatives to prove your case. By doing this you will never really see the positives he offers and sooner or later he will get sick and tired of the constant judgement and dump you.

or

You can approach things from a position of strength and acceptance, learning the true value he can contribute to you and your life. You know your boundaries and deal-breakers and it is your responsibility to live within them.

Different people have different communication styles. I don't talk a lot about myself as it can come across as conceited or bragging. Look how talk show hosts talk. They ask questions to draw conversation. Talk show hosts talk maybe 25% of the time with the guest talking 75% of the time. Maybe this is what he is doing so that he can learn about you. You have the choice to ask him questions as well.

Give him a fair and reasonable opportunity. Wouldn't you want the same without pre-judgement?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 1:58pm

If you want answers to questions and he isnt providing you with them,. why arent you just flat out asking them? In this day and age, its not even so much about being mysterious, but possibly dangerous. Id proceed with caution and definitley do saome asking of your own.