trusting again

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Registered: 02-19-2004
trusting again
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 11:10am
I am having a horrible time with my boyfriend of 4 years. hes 21 and im 23. about 2 years ago he did something that really made me not trust him. now ive gotten to the point where i make him keep "promises". its horrible. he has to promise not to look at other girls or watch movies with pretty girls. its ruining my relationship and i love him so much..he swears hes being hinest with me and that hed never hurt me again...help!
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 11:35am

Wow. That must be horrible to have live with such deep insecurties to make your SO promise not too watch movies that are cast with beautioful women...What the heck is he supposed to watch?I dont know wjhat he did to make you feel like he must promise these things to you, butits not healthy for you, and its not healthy for him.I dont even know how you consider a relationship.If he hurt you to such an extent that you feel like you need to do these things, or have certain things promised to you to continue on in the relationship, you must ask yourself whats so special that makes you stay?If he DOES do these things to you, what makes you continue being his doormat?If this "terrible thing" only occurred once, why cant you trust him and if you are unable to trust him still after this long, why are you continuing with this unhealthy commitment?


It sounds like you are so unhappy and i cant fathom why you would put yourself through al lof this.....