Trying to make things work.
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| Wed, 03-19-2008 - 1:53am |
I posted this somewhere else, But I think it belongs here.
I was dating a guy for about a year, We lived together for about 5 months. Well, He broke up with me because he said he needed his independence back and he didn't want to have to worry about me when he needed time alone. I moved out and we went with no contact for a few days before he contacted me to see how I was. Needless to say I gave him his space and time to himself for a month, This past weekend he told me he loved me and missed me and wanted to work on things. He said he wants to take his time and we need to work on ourselves and the relationship separate. I agreed and stayed calm. We have discussed some of our issues and are starting to see what the problems were. On monday he had mentioned how he wanted me to move back in and how he wanted things back to the way they were, He said he felt conflicted because he still feels like he wants the independence. We got into a dumb argument yesterday about dinner... And since then he hasn't really spoken to me. Should I be worried that he may have changed his mind and has given up, over one fight? I love him and I can see that he loves me. We want to make things work. How do I get our communication going? And work through things?
Any advice is helpfull. Thank you.
Court <3

He is conflicted with what he wants.
Hi court_bee,
Reading material to consider:
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman
Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis
Patience is the hardest thing, I know.
Is what your getting acceptable to you?