Trying to move on

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Registered: 01-14-2004
Trying to move on
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Sat, 05-08-2004 - 5:28pm
I know I should've moved on by now,but it's hard when you have strong feelings for someone. I don't know why it's so hard for me because I did't do anything wrong,but i really,really miss him. We've been with each other for 3 years,and I gave him chance after chance to get himself together get a job, stop doing drugs etc. I tried to stand by him, because when I was down and out he was there when I was sick, he even robbed someone to get money because he thought I was going to lose my apartment. When I asked him to do something for me he did it. (then he stole from me about a month ago,that's why I broke up with him)His drug habit started to control him. he's tried numerous times to call me but he never did call me to say I want tochange or I want to go to rehab etc. every message he leaves it's about him thinkng I'm with another man, and I'm not why can't he get through his head I left him alone because he stole from me not because of a man. He usually rings my phone off the hook (but i don't answer),and 8 days went by and he hasn't called at all. I know I shouldn't care but I love him, and he's a great person but i hate to see a good person go down the drain. Has he give up on trying for us? (although he should try to focus on hisself too. I have been the greatest girlfriend to him and that's the truth and he knows that. Can anyone help with this situation? I want him back but I know I can't right now because I'm still scorn from him stealing from me? Help
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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: tijauna
Sat, 05-08-2004 - 6:17pm
Sometimes I truly believe that love can make one blind. Such are you in this situation. What would really be in your best interest, however, is that you make an agreement with yourself to move on. From what you have described it sounds like this guy is all wrong for you. He stole from others, he stole from you. Stealing is wrong no matter what the reason. He will do this again. The only person that can help him is himself. There is not a single thing you can do to persuade him. It's all up to him.

Keep on moving on. And don't look back. If you spend all your time looking back how do you know you are not gonna miss the next boyfriend who not only treats you like a queen but is upstanding, responsible, and would NEVER steal from you? Think about that.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi