Trying to move on finally
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Trying to move on finally
| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 1:09pm |
i finally realized that me holding a grudge against my ex, was uncalled for. I know he will never apologize for takeing my things, so I decided to move on and forget about the stuff,and suck it up and accept it as a lost. One of my patients gave me some words of wisdom. He told me that he thinks that my boyfriend really does love me (that's why he still keeps calling me and it's been 2 months since the break-up) He said that my boyfriend his in love with the drugs and me also, and he let the drugs come between us he told me that he's trying to have me and the drugs and he can't. So now my boyfriend is at a battle with himself about me or drugs, He told me whatever I do don't hate him,because the person that I'm seeing is not my boyfriend forreal, and he told me that I still can't be with him because my boyfriend still have some issues that he must address. So I finally agreed to forgive (within myself) but don't forget,but to move on and accept it and pray for him. But he will always have a special place in my heart regardless. I want to know was this man right or do anyone have any other suggestions ? Am I doing the right thing?

Hello there,
I don't know the history of your relationship as I am new as a CL to this board. However, from what you said, yes, what you are doing is the best thing for you. Your patient gave you some excellent advice! I know it probably isn't what your heart wants, but times like this are difficult. You need to think of YOU first, not him. He has made the decision of what he has done, and you need to do what is right for you. Maybe time will tell and he'll be ready for you and the relatinoship. You see, relatioships have certain needs and requirements. But, it stems from the people in the relationship having needs and requirements.
But, yes your patient was right in having you focus on you, to just let it go. And if you need help doing that, just focus on your friendships, your family, maybe join a gym, take a class, anything! The world is open right now to you. There are some great tips on another board that I lead, and it is called Relationships in Your 20s. You don't need to be in your 20s to look into the resources this board has to offer. Check out the Healing Activities, Every Day Tips, and Recommended Reads Folders. There may just be something in there that will help you clear your mind and focus on you.
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-amy- "CL-fiesty"