TWO BROTHERS
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TWO BROTHERS
| Tue, 08-17-2004 - 7:08pm |
ABOUT TWO OR THREE MONTHS AGO, I MET A "FRIEND" ON THE INTERNET. WE STARTED TALKING AND I BEGAN TO REALLY START LIKING HIM. ABOUT A MONTH AFTER WE STARTED TALKIN, WE DECIDED TO MEET IN PERSON. WHEN WE MET IN PERSON I WAS SLIGHLTY DISSAPOINTED. I WASN'T REALLY ATTRACTED TO HIM THAT MUCH. WELL WE STAYED FRIENDS AND BECAME KIND OF CLOSE. EVERYDAY THAT WE TALK, HE IS ALWAYS TELLING ME HOW MUCH HE LIKES ME AND WANTS TO BE WITH ME.WELL, ONE DAY I WENT OVER TO HIS HOUSE AND HIS BROTHER WAS THERE. I INSTANLTY BECAME ATTRACTED TO HIS BROTHER. WELL WE STARTED TALKING ON THE PHONE AND NOW I FEEL MYSELF FALLING FOR THE BROTHER ALTHOUGH I DONT WANT TO LOOSE A FRIENDSHIP WITH THE OTHER BROTHER. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I FEEL LIKE IF GO WITH WHAT I FEEL THAT I WILL LOOSE A GOOD FRIEND AND THAT IS THE LAST THING THAT I WANT TO DO.

First things first here. To begin with, you should be honest with the first guy you met with whom you are friends. Let him know that you cherish the friendship, but do not see it going further than that. This is very important. You do not want to lead him on and generate false hopes. Is he waiting for the relationship to turn into something more? Whether or not you like his brother, this is hard for him. Be clear with him about your feelings for him.
Secondly, most likely, it would be quite painful for him to see you and his brother together. I would think carefully about that. There are most likely many other guys you could be attracted to, and if you want the friendship of the first man you've met, I'd decline from getting involved with his brother (especially behind his back). This is a recepie for causing him a lot of distress.
Best wishes,
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