You have a right to have your needs, which I believe are complete natural and normal, and not be considered "needy". In fact, you are in a difficult situation here. Many women could not tolerate a relationship where the partner was away two weeks every month. Certainly, that alone can create more "neediness", and of course natural affection, cuddles and warmth are a part of every relationship, especially when someone is away so much. And beyond that, in all good relationships, it's important for him to consider your needs and respect your feelings. So,this situation needs work. If he is not willing to work on things and listen to your feelings and needs and try to fill them, then the situation is not healthy.
You should take a good look and see if this kind of arrangement and situation is healthy for you and if you really want it for the long run. It's one thing to love a person, it's another to be in a situation with them that works for both of you.
Welcome to the board mercy2250,
I lived with a Navy guy ages ago, but what I learned that after being
"I don't think a long hug and some cuddling is unreasonable. "
I agree with you, but asking for affection is tricky because it's something that he has to WANT to give, otherwise it won't mean anything to you.
Five Love Languages is a great read and I hope you will pick it up!
You have a right to have your needs, which I believe are complete natural and normal, and not be considered "needy". In fact, you are in a difficult situation here. Many women could not tolerate a relationship where the partner was away two weeks every month. Certainly, that alone can create more "neediness", and of course natural affection, cuddles and warmth are a part of every relationship, especially when someone is away so much. And beyond that, in all good relationships, it's important for him to consider your needs and respect your feelings. So,this situation needs work. If he is not willing to work on things and listen to your feelings and needs and try to fill them, then the situation is not healthy.
You should take a good look and see if this kind of arrangement and situation is healthy for you and if you really want it for the long run. It's one thing to love a person, it's another to be in a situation with them that works for both of you.
Best wishes,
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