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|Tue, 11-01-2005 - 11:55am|
Is it hopeless?
My wife is very unaffectionate. I have tried most everything. I have talked to her about it and how I need her to show me her affection. I am not even talking about sex. I told her a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a pat on the butt. Anything would be great.
I have been very affectionate towards her. I give her hugs when we pass in the hall. I tell her I love her and how beautiful I think she is. I don't feel I am smothering in my affection and am not possesive either. I have spoken to her about it and told her how I feel but nothing ever changes. I find myself not wanting to help her around the house because I say what the heck for she doesn't give me a hug and kiss every now and then. I feel bad that I feel that way and it is a subconcious thought but it is there. She says she loves me and there are no signs of an affair. All I get for an explaination is I am not a very affectionate person. That I don't understand. It is a basic human desire to love and be loved. She sometimes blames it on her parents bad marriage. But she is very affectionate toward our children and her parents were not very affectionate toward her. We do have sex on a regular basis and she appears to enjoy it. But I just want a wife that I can hold hands with and acts like she loves me.
By most standards we have a very good marriage. We do not have money issues or other common marriage problems. The only thing lacking is a physical display of affection.
Edited 11/1/2005 1:18 pm ET by mluvs2w