unanimous phone calls

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Registered: 10-16-2004
unanimous phone calls
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Sat, 10-16-2004 - 1:22pm
Okay ladies I need your input.....please

I am a very experienced with the opposite sex, however, until she came along.

We met and hit it off and were inseparable for 5 weeks. Then on the weekend after the 5 weeks she calls me twice sat and twice sun. then nothing for the next week, then 1 unanimous phone call each week for the next 2 weeks. I traced the 2 calls and they came from her at different places she frequents. I am also very very particular who I give my cell number out to. She did not leave any message, return number or voicemail. It was definitely her.

Her cell phone is down and she left her charger at my place, how convenient huh. I am not a chaser, stalker or whiner. She pursued me and did the majority of the phone calls within the first 5 weeks. So really she knows how to find me, call me and track me down. I will not run after her or go looking for her, she knows this. My question...so what is with the unanimous phone calls, ladies?
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Registered: 05-29-2003
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 1:46pm
Do you mean ANONYMOUS phone calls?
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Registered: 10-16-2004
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 1:54pm
yes, sorry
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Registered: 09-21-2004
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 2:52pm
I'm a woman and the anonymous phone call is confusing to me! The only thing I can say about the anonymous phone calls is maybe she wanted to see if you were home. I can't see why else she would call without identifying herself. Anonymous phone calls aside, maybe she wants you to show some interest. You said she did the majority of the calling, and you talked to her twice two days in a row and then you heard nothing from her. Did you try to call her within that week she didn't call you? Are you interested in this woman? Did you not call her that much because you thought it would be "chasing" her? Now there's nothing you can do because her cell phone battery is dead and you've got her charger! I may still try to call her, she can always get a new charger and if you get in contact with her, remind her you've got the old charger and try to make plans to see her if you want. But if you like this woman, you have to give a little too.
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Registered: 10-16-2004
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 11:30am
yes I did try to call her 3 times after that weekend, within 1 week and left messages. Yes I am interested in her. I did quit calling because I thought it would be chasing her. The anonymous calls came after my calls the following 2 wednesdays.

She has 3 dufflebags of clothes at my place. In all the relationships I've been in, I have not experienced this before.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 11:40am
There is a fine line between Chasing and Stalking. I'm a guy and if I call a woman 3 times and she refuses to return my calls - I would take it as a sign that She's just not that interested. If she doesn't have the common courtesy to return a call - why would I want to waste my time on someone that makes the CHOICE to play games.

Since some of her things are at your place, I would suggest that you call 1 more time saying that you would like to make arrangements to return her things.

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Registered: 10-16-2004
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 11:50am
Very truthful and a good point, I do agree its just that guys analyze things and before her 4 call weekend she always returned my calls and initiated them with hers. I was curious to get a few ladies points of view because we think differently.

I know another call will be coming in for me, however I seem to miss them.