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| Thu, 03-18-2004 - 6:40pm |
I've been seeing this guy for 10 months now. And, we're still "just dating". It is driving me crazy, because it makes me feel like he's stringing me along. In certain ways, he is very caring and considerate. But, there are other parts that just raises red flags. My family and friends are so outdone when I tell them that he has never come to my house to visit. I have two small children (4 and 5) and he has none. I understood in the beginning, because I did not want him to start a relationship with my children if he wasn't going to be around. But...it is 10 months later! Another is that his mom lives out of state and was here visiting for a week around Christmas. He did not introduce me to his mother. That entire week, I just didn't see him. We exchanged gifts after his mother left town. The couple of times that I've brought up taking our relationship to another level, he once told me "I like things the way they are". Another time, he responded by saying "If we decided to be in a relationship tomorrow, what would change". These things make me feel like being with him is pointless. But then he turns around and does really sweet things for me.
I am 25 years old, so I am young, but I am also a mother of 2. My children's father and I married when we were 19 but it did not last. We divorced when we were 22. I am not interested in simply casually dating. I would like to find a relationship that could possible mature into a commitment.
Am I wasting my time and energy on this man?

Who knows, he may not feel comfortable with you in terms of relationship (in depth) but then again he just doesnt find a way to let it be known.
Good Luck,
Marlene ^_^
It kind of does sound like you're wasting your time and energy on this guy unless he starts saying and doing differently. It doesn't sound like this guy is ready to make any kind of committment to you at this time. If you want more, you might want to wait, to see if that works. Or you could start dating others as there's no spoken or implied agreement about exclusivity. Maybe that would make him think twice, who knows. Either way, I guess I wouldn't pin too much hope on this guy. He sounds like he's non-committal. Good luck.