Uncertainties

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
Uncertainties
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 3:15pm

I'm in my late fifties and have been involved with the same man for almost three years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
In reply to: dabela
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 12:16pm

Do you have any kind of relationship with his daughters, outside of him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
In reply to: dabela
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 1:16pm

Yes, we've taken a couple of week-long trips.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
In reply to: dabela
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 1:07am

I don't know what to tell you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
In reply to: dabela
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:49pm
fissatore wrote:

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: dabela
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 10:31am

Without going back & rereading, I think you said something about thinking about selling your house--that could be the basis of starting a discussion.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
In reply to: dabela
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 11:03am

You cn have the conversation without issuing ultimatums. Tell him ahead of time. that at some point in the near future, you would like tio have a conversation about where you both thinks the relationship is going. Tell him you don;t want to do it right then, as it is comething that you want to put some thought in to. And then see how it goes. It sounds like you have a pretty good idea of where you want it to go. He will either be on the same page, not tihnking the same way at all, or being male, has not thought about :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
In reply to: dabela
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 11:54am

We've already had the "where do you think we will go long-term" discussion and that is where he said that he would like us to marry someday.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
In reply to: dabela
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 11:55am
deedle7544 wrote:

He will either be on the same page, not tihnking the same way at all, or being male, has not thought about :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: dabela
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 12:37pm

H Dabela,

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2009
In reply to: dabela
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 1:19am

Hi All,

Thanks for the feedback. It really helps.

I did manage to bring the subject up without making it sound like an ultimatum.