Uncertainty

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Registered: 12-18-2007
Uncertainty
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Tue, 12-18-2007 - 1:25pm
I started seeing a woman about 3 months ago.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: cjk164
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 1:55pm

Welcome to the board cjk164,


It sounds like she could use some counseling to help her get over the death of her fiance. I do think she needs to space right now. Let her know that you care for her and that she can come to you if she needs anything but that you will respect her request for space.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: cjk164
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 2:10pm

Welcome to the board cjk164,


Too bad she hasn't done some grief counseling, it would help.


You can only honor her wish and hope for the best.


Reading material for you to consider - replace he with she:


When he asks for space (aka, "a break")

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2007
In reply to: cjk164
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 2:14pm
She has gone through some grief counceling and it has helped her tremendously from her original suicidal state.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cjk164
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 3:09pm

Sadly enough the answer to your question is yes.

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Registered: 12-18-2007
In reply to: cjk164
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 3:40pm
She certainly has other issues in her mind.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: cjk164
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 4:04pm

Yes. The only thing that can possibly bring her back to you is time/counseling on her part.

But I urge you not to wait around for her. She may be an amazing woman but putting your life on hold will cause you to miss out.

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Registered: 12-18-2007
In reply to: cjk164
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 9:12am
She still sends the random friendly text message, just about random things, nothing to do with the relationship.