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uncomfortable with situation
| Sun, 04-25-2004 - 10:17pm |
My boyfriend and I have a terrific relationship but there is one thing that really bothers me. He has this female friend who he became friends with from work after we started dating. She moved away last year to Canada and whenever she comes back to our city to visit her family, and her and my boyfriend make plans to get together. He always invites me along (and he always says that she wants to see me again too) so I don’t feel that threatened by her and I know there’s nothing between them, however, one day I was reading an email over his shoulder from her asking him to visit her in Toronto during his vacation this summer. From what he wrote back, it sounds like he’s planning on going and he hasn’t invited me. Her note didn’t mention inviting me either. I find it a little offensive that she would ask him to use up his vacation on her instead of spending it on me. I also find it upsetting that he would consider using his time to visit her. Her being very attractive and single doesn’t make me feel any better. How do I express my feelings to him about her without sounding insecure and controlling? I just don’t feel good about this situation. She’s a really nice person and seems to like me a lot and wants to include me in their friendship so that makes me feel like the difficult one here. He has several good female friends and so I know this could turn into a bad argument because he’s been completely faithful to me and I don’t’ want to be accusing him of something he hasn’t done.
