Unusual circumstance
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Unusual circumstance
| Fri, 06-11-2004 - 11:32pm |
I am currently engaged and living with my fiance. We've been together for almost 3 years. I'm not so sure that I want to get married but that is not the reason I'm writing. My problem is that we recently got a computer, and today, my fiance was at work and I was feeling snoopy, my gut told me somethings up! We met on the internet and so he thinks that when I'm online that I'm looking for guys. Which is totally not true! I've heard that the one doing the accusing is usually trying to hide something so when i got home from work i got on the computer and decided to look under his account history and see what he's been looking at. What I discovered completely floored me!!! Along with motorcycle info and playstation info (which is what he tells me he looks up) I found VERY sexually explicit sites! He has always told me that he finds that stuff disgusting! I immediately wanted to vomit because some of them were teen girl sites. I know that most of his previous girlfriends were a few years younger, one was even 16/17 when he was 21. I'm 3 years younger than he is. Me 22 He 25. Anyways, I don't know how to confront him on the issue, if at all because I probably shouldn't have been snooping! After I discovered this, he called me from work and I told him that I was going to get on the computer and I asked if it was safe to go up there? and he said Yeah, why and I said you haven't been looking at porn and masturbating have you and he said what?! No and then quickly changed the subject! so he lied to me about it. Our sex life isn't anything to brag about much less talk about. He has the tendancy to always ejaculate within a matter of a couple of minutes. He isn't willing to see a doctor about it and claims he's tried every trick in the book. So far self gratification has gotten me through. I'm always willing to have sex but he hardly ever wants to. And when I want it, nothing will get him in the mood!
I don't know if I should say something to him or if he would just get mad. (he's got a temper and a short fuse) And I want to know if the porn affects or sex life and if it's something to even worry about!

Most men look at porn on the internet and most of them will lie about it. Also-most of the sites say they are teen girls "barely legal". As long as the pics weren't child porn then it should be ok. If it really makes you uncomfortable then maybe you can talk to him but really I don't think it's a big deal. Men are very visual creatures. If you want to know more about this check out the Happily Married board. There was just a recent post on there! Hope I helped
Melissa
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