Update, Ciao Gina please help!
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Update, Ciao Gina please help!
| Thu, 01-15-2004 - 11:35am |
Well, he answered my postcard today, saying he didnt answer it before becasue he didnt know what to answer, that what we talk on sunday (the day we broke up) it´s all he can say at least for now. That he doesnt want to hate me and if we had continued the road we were into , we will hate each other eventually.
That times is good, although sometimes we dont like it. That he was there for me.
That times is good, although sometimes we dont like it. That he was there for me.
Should I answer back, what should I write?! It seems he wants time, but what I cant figure out if this is definitive or not.
Please help me!

You seem to be only thinking about getting back together and not on why you two are breaking up. It won't work because it is too dysfunctional. Maybe into the future you can date again but he has to want that and you two have to positively change what was wrong. You can only control your part. So look at what you brought to the relationship and where you responsiblity lie. Your jealousy, demands on him, and anything else. Concentrate on what that was really about in therapy. But look at how to make improvements for yourself, not for another man.
Decide if you want to be friends (can you really handle that?)
Only when you are truly content being single can you positively give to a partner in a relationship. Think about that.
Gina
I most of the time thinking that I miss him, the if´s, about wanting him in my life, without seeing if´s this thing we had can really be saved. Our break up was very wierd, very ambigous, like we will see, we care, and stuff, and that´s what giving me hope. The first time we broke up, it was the same and eventually we got back together. So I´m thinking maybe it´s the same. Also I want some certainty, like, well, maybe this is only some time, or maybe this is definitive. If it´s the last,I will cry but then I would have to eventually move o not thinking about him. But if theirs is some hope, I will somehow wait.
I´m trying not to think to much about it, I´m arranging different outings with friends, and then is when I dont think at all of him. But here, at work, with so little work it´s easy to ramble.
I´m also scared of the future, of him redoing his life without me, and viceversa. Because I´ll always miss him.