Update to "Immediate Help Needed"

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Registered: 07-17-2008
Update to "Immediate Help Needed"
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Thu, 07-24-2008 - 11:00am

Thank you all for your responses.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 1:32pm

Not everyone has their SO's passwords.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 4:07pm

Your point is well taken.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 7:01pm
I think this advice is totally 100% on target. confused_girl, trust me on this, if you had his password it would be worse. It would be like handing you the keys to a car that has no brakes. And in the end, you would never be satisfied and he would resent you. Please don't pursue this route. Trust is important but so is privacy, as the CL said I think you need to discuss ways of getting over this as a team. Taking a non-accusatory tone and focusing on solving a problem so that you can feel better about this will take the focus off of him feeling blamed and accused. Perhaps he will be better at communicating when he sees you are making an effort too. It's tough to be in a conversation where YOU are the only one who is angry and spiteful, when the other person is calm and sincere it is really helpful to the other.
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Registered: 07-17-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 9:27am

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