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Update: met ex for dinner
| Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:53pm |
Thanks for you advise. I met him for dinner was surprise with what he had to say. he said he loves me and has for a long time. he said he knows he screw up and he don't know how to fix it. He answer all my questions and he feels he lost the best that ever happen to his life. I said no you threw me away. i told him how he hurt me and all the pain he caused. We talked for about three hours, i listen to him cry, talk etc. I ended up telling him if he wanted anything to do with me first the other women has got to move out and second we would have to go to couseling and third that i do not want to go up to his house. I also told him it will take lots of work he will have to work harder than he ever did before. He agree to it but only to say that he needs time to get her out. He don't want to hurt her. He said he will understand if I don't wait. But that he wanted me toknow that he never stop loving me. so this is what was said what do you guys think?

Why do men always have to lose something to realize what they had?
How do you feel right now?
Yes i am going very slowly. In fact nothing has really change in my area. My life is going on as usual and it's him that has to do the work. so really it's all up to him. I don't think there is anything i can do to rush it. If he takes too long though I am going to tell him he has to make a choice. I will just have to see what he does. Let me know what you think. I feel if he really wants me he would end it real soon. He wants to get her out of our building but that could take some time. I told him to be honest with her. I don't know what to think. I am keeping my eyes wide open this is for sure.
You cannot control how long it takes him to sort this out. But you can date other people.
No matter what - do not go out with him or have sex with him until he does sort this out. I would also be careful not to be too chatty with him at work. Keep your guard up.
Keep us posted!
I don't like how he is so wishy-washy. Who is to say that he didn't just have a fight with her and then miss you? Or maybe he just doesn't like the feeling of being rejected when you are so cold to him.
Men are funny creatures at times.
Your only choice is to wait. But yes, you should continue to stay very busy and to date other people in the interim. Your biggest question should be whether he is worthy of you, not the other way around.
I think you are doing so good because you have questions about trust.