Update on my situation

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Registered: 05-09-2003
Update on my situation
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Fri, 01-02-2004 - 11:58am
Hi! I posted here last Monday about my bf and his "I dont know what going on with me" attitude. Since then, I gave him room, hadnt call, email or visit him. He then called me on new year´s eve, to wish me a happy 2004, I asked how he was doing, he said "so so". I asked to see him, and he said he doesnt know.Then I asked if he has been thinking and he said that yes, a little, the told me he kindda of knows whats going on but dont want to discuss it over the phone. Ok, we hang up.

He hasnt called yesterday, today he is not working and no t calling either.

I dont know what else to think maybe he has indirectly broken up with me, but he is not like that at all and he deserves some credit. Maybe he is taking some real alone time to figure out what he wants in life.

It hurts me he is avoiding me, and I imagine the worst thing. But on the other hand, maybe he simply doesnt know what to do, is confunsed and is doing this not to hurt me. We are pretty young and it´s common in our age to analize what do we want from life and stuff. I´m in therapy and it helps a lot in that subject, but he isnt...

Or maybe, I´m being a complete fool and he has gone and cant deal with facing me?!

Please, some advice!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 12:07pm
You deserve to know ifhe wants to end it so that you can move on. He has you 'on hold' by saying that he doesn't want to tell you in person. Decide how long you are willing to wait for the explanation before you let him go.

If it were me I would call him and tell him that it isn't fair to me to keep stalling the talk. I would ask for him to either tell me over the phone or meet with me asap.