Update on need some serious advice from Bill

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Registered: 02-02-2008
Update on need some serious advice from Bill
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Fri, 10-14-2011 - 9:25pm

Well I've contacted an attorney so it's just a matter of time until i can save up 2 grand to pay her...She said go to the courthouse and pick up a Pro-se divorce packet, but when i went up there today they said that they dont hand those out. That they had Dissolution Packets but that was only if both parties agreed on everything.....Well She has only let me see my 3 sons ages 9, 5, and 3, on monday and Wednesday this week for about 4.5 hours each..the attorney told me that if she didnt let me see the boys , that there was nothing i could do...She has residential custody of them..and to be as civil as i could...and thats why i will not allow just a dissolution..because there is no reason at all that ahe should have more power over the kids than I. That if this is her definition of joint custody, or shared parenting that it;'s wrong and thats why i told her i would fight her for my sons.....The attorney i spoke to also said that the 3 years she lived with me and continued to make me pay her child support?...that she wouldn't get into any trouble at all for it...that if anything i might get credit for it but she wouldn't get into any trouble........wow...i'm baffled........so i guess its legal......something is wrong with that....but i have to believe in my heart that i have a chance to get my kids....she wont agree on equal time with them..and i refuse to sit idley by and only see them a couple days a week, let her maintain control and act like its just fine...NOT ALL DADS ARE DEAD BEATS, AND SHAME ON ANYONE OR ANY SYSTEM THAT BABIES WOMEN AND GIVES THEM THEIR WAY..THERE ARE MEN IN THE WORLD WHO DESERVE JUST AS MUCH A RIGHT TO THEIR CHILDREN AS THEIR WIVES DO...MEN WHO LEAD GOOD LIVES, HAVE LOVED THEIR WIVES AND ARE WONDERFUL DADS...THAT JUST GET SCREWED BECAUSE OF LIES AND A SYSTEM THAT STILL FAVORS THE MOMS.....I've gotten to see my 3 sons for 8 hours this week....not enough.........

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 10:54pm

Hi Bill, I'm not from the US, so I can't give you any practical advice.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 10:55pm

I'm a woman and a divorce lawyer and I agree that you should try to see your kids as much as possible.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 10-15-2011 - 12:19am

$2000 for a lawyer is pretty steep.

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Registered: 07-13-2011
What reason is she giving for not letting you see them?
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Registered: 02-02-2008
She's not giving a reason really..it's a power thing with her and since she hasResidential custody of the boys even an attorney told me that theres nothing i can do if i walk up to her door and ask for them, she has control and has the right to refuse me to see them.....thats why when we split i knew there could be no Anullment because i will not just see my kids a couple times a week for a few hours and on every other saturday or sunday......
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Registered: 12-27-2004
What would you regard as a fair schedule? Someone is bound to ask you this sooner or later--best not to be caught off guard.
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Registered: 02-02-2008
Sat, 10-15-2011 - 10:31pm
Well, since we live within 5 minutes of each other i see no reason i shouldn't be able to see them every other day through the week and at least every other week end....anything is better than what im getting now...